So, we’ve somehow got through Christmas—or dodged it altogether (because honestly, why not?). And just when we thought we could take a breather, here comes New Year’s, strutting in with all its glitter, countdowns, and promises of a “fresh start.” Let’s be real: for those of us grieving, New Year’s can feel like a big, exhausting reminder that time keeps marching on, whether we’re ready or not.
The world tells us to celebrate, to make resolutions, to declare that this year will be “our year.” But what if your heart isn’t in it? What if the idea of setting goals or looking ahead feels impossible when you’re still holding tight to what’s behind you? That’s okay. There’s no right way to do this. There’s only your way.
And thinking about the future? That can feel terrifying. It can stir up feelings that you’re somehow forgetting or “moving on.” But let me tell you something—you’re not. You will never forget. You will always carry your grief because it’s part of your love. What changes with processing and healing work, is how you learn to carry it. You adjust to its weight, finding ways to hold it without being consumed by it. And having hope or dreams now is not wrong. It doesn’t mean you’re letting go of the love or memories you cherish. If anything, it means you’re finding space for both. Maybe I can help you as you unpack what’s holding you back, as you figure out what feels right for you.
And if you are looking for some support as you navigate your way into this new year I have some options for you. Just click on my website and check the offerings page. There just might be something for you.
One on One coaching
Online Grief Education using The Grief Recovery Method - an evidenced base program - we set the times together for our weekly meetings. This is a 7 week one on one program.
Unpacking your own story of loss group program - using The Hardest, Not the Worst Year book as your template for digging into your own story of loss. - small group online - 6 weeks next program starting Jan 26th 2025
Free online groups - Grief over dinner and Death over dinner - small groups online. Dates TBA - Limited numbers.
Grief doesn’t follow a calendar. It doesn’t care that it’s December 31st or January 1st. It shows up when it wants—sometimes softly, sometimes like a wrecking ball crashing over everything. So, if you’re not feeling the confetti and champagne this year, that’s not wrong. It’s real.
Only you know what feels right for you right now. Maybe this New Year’s, you’ll feel like watching a movie, journaling, or crying into a cup of tea. Maybe you’ll want to light a candle in honor of your loved one or skip the whole thing and go to bed early. Listen to your heart. Let it guide you.
There’s no pressure here. No resolutions required. Maybe the only thing you need from this new year is to keep breathing, to take one step at a time, to find small moments of light in the dark. And that’s enough.
If you do stay up to watch the countdown, let midnight be what you need it to be—a moment to honour where you’ve been, to acknowledge the love and loss that shaped you, and to trust that whatever comes next, you’ll find your way. Because you always do. 💛
Love from,
Kath
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